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Feminist Rants – A Letter to Man


Bother to read this, will you? I know you won’t, but nobody can stop me from trying. A day will find you reading this and all the other letters from my sisters – that day you will drown deep in remorse and your own guilt.

Are you that bad? Maybe not, you are after all made from the same soil as me. I believe good prevails, I hope you won’t let me down.

I hate how your dominance becomes the world order. How my sufferings go hand in hand with your courageous feats. Why must I be only behind your success, I want to have that equal role. I hate your power , it overshadows ours. Why can’t I be a part of your game?

I hate how you stare. Do you realize it works like an X-ray? Your gaze strips me off my dignity. Our body is ours alone, dare you become my master.

I hate how you leave for work and crush me under my own responsibilities. Am I a slave? These kids are not my kids alone. Why are you so indifferent? I have raised them well. I have accomplished my job and role, now I want to work, rather earn. “No. You are not a woman of the world”.

A woman of the world?

You are over possessive. I am not a trophy, I need to fly free. Your time limits and curfews make no sense at all. The size of my clothes shrouds your thinking. My skin needs to breathe.

I hate your labels. I hate how we wear pink and you wear blue. I hate your expectations from us. I hate how you sell us in our marriages. I hate how you can marry another and forget me altogether. I hate getting a cold welcome when I am born. I hate how we become products in your thriving business. I hate being used.

I hate being submissive to your will. I hate being your toy. Most of all, I hate accepting you are essential to my existence. I hate giving in.

I don’t want to hate you anymore. I know that once you did love me. That once, I was the only creature of immense beauty to you. That I was the centre of your universe. This society never let us be. Isn’t love meant to last forever?

Let’s forget the in-betweens, let’s just focus on this relationship. Me and my sisters want equality. You can be my father, brother or fiancé, but I want this level playing field. I want your muscles, your brawn, in return, you could have my long hair, my soft skin. Give me your determination and grit, take my grace and belief. You could even take my motherhood; just give me your ‘respect’.

Mine – truly and always,

Ursila Ali


9 comments on “Feminist Rants – A Letter to Man

  1. Sabika Abbas
    April 16, 2011

    Beautifully written ursila..Keep it up! 😀

  2. Muskan Bhatia
    April 16, 2011

    Well written…. !! Keep the good work goin’….

  3. Aman Sian
    April 16, 2011

    when pablo picasso startrs illustrating for a magazine
    you know it has entered the big league

  4. thesaltlisters
    April 16, 2011

    Correction. When Ursila Ali starts writing for a magazine, you know it has entered the big league. 😛
    On a more serious note, apt credits have been given for the very apt picture. Hope you liked the piece:)

  5. ursila
    April 17, 2011

    thanks sabika,muskan bhatia, the saltlisters …..i hope to have a support like this in future as well.

    aman sian – the magazine is in a league of its own…the article was inspired by the weeping woman by pablo picasso, i was also humming the lines of no woman no cry while writing this!
    again thanks a ton for your feedback!

  6. Kritika
    April 17, 2011

    The writer has highlighted in brief all those areas in this society where our sex has to go through hardships on account of male chauvinism. I am not much of a feminist, but any kind of inequalities are obnoxious. A very straightforward and outstanding article. 🙂

  7. Aman Sian
    April 18, 2011

    Thanks for taking my comment in right spirit i.e. with a pinch of salt . Indeed, saltlist, is in a league of its own.

    As you mention – article was inspired by the weeping woman by pablo picasso, and you were also humming the lines of no woman no cry while writing this – makes it an effective complementary work of art.

    Even as a standalone, I did like the article a lot: right from its righteous feminist angst to the poetic, almost philosophical and humanitarian depth of last two paragraphs.

    Keep it up!

  8. angela
    April 23, 2011

    can’t there be a separate section for feminism?

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